Solange

Now I usually don’t do this, but I would like to take a moment to talk about Solange Knowles. I’m loving her!!! I don’t know when or exactly how this came about but damnit Beyoncé’s younger sister is giving me life. I love her hair and its fabulous whether she’s wearing her actual hair, wigs, or box braids. I also love the fact that she told some magazine… Essence maybe that she was not the poster child for natural hair, that she was her own person. Here's the link Solange talks about natural hair, although she got some backlash from the natural girls around the world. She still gave no fucks and said she meant what she said but she could have chosen a better why of saying it. Her fashion sense is a little off to some but I love it. It's got to be hard to be the biggest pop star of our generations sister and find your own way. Solange has manage to do just that, she may not have been apart of Destiny's Child but she's found a way to step into her own Destiny.

 

Now I may not have always been here for or a fan her music when she first came out and was playing around in Lil' Bow Bow's videos. I was like girl..... we already have 3LW and now you want to be the solo version.  Please try again Miss because I''m not feeling it.

 

Well she did exactly that and dropped this little gem. I absolutely loved this album Sol-Angel and the Hadley St. Dreams. I felt like she had finally come into her own or she stopped trying to be what others thought she should, Beyonce the lite verison. Maybe after going through a divorce and having a kid she had something to talk about, whatever the case she found her groove. Recently she put out an EP True, and its amazing I love it!!! I knew I would when I heard the first single off of it Losing You. 

How can you not love this??? But even more recently she covered one of my favorite songs Make it Hot by Nicole Wray.... they need to do an episode of Finding our Missing on her, because honey has been ghost since 2001 at least. Anyway Solange covers the song and I love it. Solange covers Make it Hot . Is Solange ever going to be as big of a star as her big sister? No but do I think Solange cares about that? Absolutely not. She marches to the beat of her own drum and if you don't like the rhythm, I'm sure she would tell those people.... sit your ass down and don't dance then.

Things That Make You Go Hmmmm.....

You know when I go out; I see some egregious things that bother me to my core. Things that make me think what is this person’s life about??? The answer I usually come up with is nonsense, rubbish, and absolute trash. Today I would like to share a few of those things

1) Bed attire in public- Have you ever been out at the grocery, on the train or just in public in general and have seen a woman with her Sponge Bob Square Pants pajama bottoms on, her hair is wrapped in a scarf or hair bonnet??? Even worst her hair is in rollers, she has on Chinese slippers, and Freaknik 1995 t-shirt (or what type of shirt). Like WTF!!!! What is your life about that you are going around looking like dreams deferred and wasted accomplishments? Listen this shit has got to stop. I have seen people like this at bus stops, in libraries, the DMV, etc…. I’m going to need these people to realize that this is real life and not a college campus. 

2) Dirty hair- Whether it’s the hair growing from your scalp or the hair you brought that has tracks attached, dirty hair is dirty ass hair!! There’s no excuse for either. I’m not talking about that I’ve gone a couple of days passed when I should've initially washed my hair. I’m talking about weeks and months people. For those without weaves, braids, clip-ins, or whatever extra type of hair you may have please just exit stage left and leave the building because there is no excuse for your hair to have bathroom grime in it. For the girls with the extra hair attached to their head, y’all ain’t off the hook. I’m like Sunshine Anderson…. I heard it all before as to why some girls don’t wash their weaves. I don’t want to loosen the tracks/braids; it’s too heavy when it’s wet, blah blah. Listen girls that shit isn’t going to fly anymore. I’ve had weaves and braids before and I washed my hair; I wasn’t going to go around with my hair smelling like dirt and King Tut's tomb. If you are afraid of loosening the extension don’t pull at it so hard, be gentle. Then make sure you dry your hair… because especially if you have a sew-in the tracks will be wet and start smelling like mildew. Also if you just don’t want to put water on your hair (idk why???) use dry shampoo!! Boom it will at else get the dirt and oil off your scalp…. No more excuses.   

3) Leggings-  Do I despise leggings? No, do I own and wear leggings? Hell yes but what I don’t do is wear leggings as pants. They are leggings not pants!!! So if you’re wearing leggings and your shirt, sweater or dress/shirt (sometimes people wear shirts and call them dresses but they're really suppose to be shirts but we don’t judge them tho) doesn’t over your ass….. stop right there re-think your whole situation. If your shirt is at your waist and your ass is all the way out in your leggings, you do know people can see your panties? Like I’m sorry I don’t need to know you’re wearing one of your $ 5 for $25 Pink by Victoria Secret panties today.  Get out of here with that shit. I believe people who this kind of stuff are lowkey attention whores and just want folks to look at their asses. If that’s the case more power to you but could you please to the public a favor. Save that shit for the house when you’re at home making Jodie or whom ever tacos. 

4) Makeup- I talked about hair now its time to talk about makeup. I’m going to make this as general as possible because I could write a whole blog about this, I really should tho because this shit is getting ridiculous. Ladies blending is the word of the day, month, and year. Blend your shit… foundation, concealer, bronzer, eye shadow. Blend it there’s no need for harsh lines on your face, blend it and make everything cohesive. Please buy the foundation for your skin tone… don’t go around looking like Mitt Romney when he was speaking at that interview for Univision (a Spanish speaking TV network) damn near looking like a orange traffic cone. On the flipside you don’t want your makeup to be too light either and go around looking like a corpse….. that casket sharp look ain’t the move either. Look at Tempestt Bledsoe out here destroying Vanessa Huxtable's legacy... smh. Now speaking of eye shadow please learn the proper way to attempt the smokey eye, and raccoon eyes ain’t what’s hot in these streets. Now this is a public service announcement for real. Please don’t shave your eyebrows off like Whoopi Goldberg and draw them shits back on!!!!! What in the hell is wrong with people??? Do you know how crazy you look?? Why not get them arched, waxed, or threaded. There’s no need to fucking shave off your eyebrows, just to draw them back on…. I don’t get it. The moral of the story is that stop going around looking like your five year niece did your makeup. There are too many books, magazines, and youtube tutorials for you to be out here looking like a drag queen on crystal meth. 

5) Underwear- Undergarments are exactly what the name says…. They are meant to be worn under your clothes. Camisoles are not tank tops, bras aren’t crop tops, and spanxx aren’t dresses. Yes I’ve seen women wearing these things as if they were meant to be worn that way. Guess what girl?? They aren’t!!! Now the real kicker is when I see these tricks wearing bras and panties, like a damn bikini. It’s just the ultimate most ratchet ass shit ever. How are you at the pool/beach swimming in your drawers????  That’s some real Honey Boo Boo, ratchet, hillbilly shit!!! But it never fails someone is at the pool in the water in their Victoria Secret best….. smh. On top is it being ratchet, it’s pretty fucking unsanitary. Go to Target and get a real swimming suit and stop wearing teddy’s and shit to the club.   

I Am Not My Hair: Part 5

Well it's been awhile since I did a post about my hair... but I'm back with a quick update. For those that don't know I shaved my head back in January (I Am Not My Hair) because well there's no eloquent way to say why I did it. No I didn't have a Britney Spears moment, I just got a really bad perm. So bad to the point that my hair fell out from the root.... Honestly I think it was one of the best things that's happened for to hair. I mean that my hair getting that damaged from a relaxer, that it just fell out of my head like it had just given up on life, that the only real choice I was to shave it off and start over. Made me really think about what the creamy crack was doing to my hair. After I shaved my head.... I decided or maybe it was Divine Intervention that stepped in and decided for me, that chemically altering my hair isn't the way to go anymore. Anyway its been different from what I'm use to, and that's putting it mildly.

Different to the point that I wasn't sure what to do with my hair as it started to grow. When it got to a certain point/long enough, I got box braids for about two months. I took them out this week because I had a lot of time on my hands ( that's another story) and my hair grew a lot. I was actually really surprised by that. It grew to the point where I really didn't know what to do with it once again. It's in that twa (teeny weeny afro) phase and that's cute for some put for me not so much. So after two days I got my hair re-braided.... I just couldn't deal, plus I am trying to grow my hair out. In my experience I realized that the less access I have to my hair, the more my hair grows. I know I just need more time with my hair and learn what works on my hair and what doesn't. I just have that hair that's like a sponge it just soaks up any piece of moisture that touches it. So my hair is always dry.... no matter how hard I try. Nobody said this natural hair journey was going to be easy.

Music Spotlight: Miguel

I usually don't really blog about music but since this is my blog... I'll talk about whatever I feel like and today its music. More specifically its about one particular artist Miguel..... I love his music!! Although he maybe the  fairest pixie fairy this side of the Mississippi. In my mind me and him are very good girlfriends we do things like go shopping, drink skinny girl margaritas, and watch old episodes of the Golden Girls together. But all jokes aside his music is banging!!!!! When I first heard of Miguel I believe I was watching vh1 soul or something and this video came on.

I thought the song was cute.... well no I did actually really like the song and added it to by ipod but I really didn't give Miguel or his music much thought after that. Well a few months went by and I was in one of my friend's car and she was listen to Miguel's debut album and it was good. I mean it was really good.... you can listen to that CD from the beginning to end and not skip a song. That's pretty damn rare these days.. shit most folks albums consist of a couple hot singles and the rest of the album is hot garbage. Yes I'm talking to you Usher that album he put out earlier this summer.. well let's just say it left much to be desired. So the next day after hearing Miguel's CD in my friends car I actually physically went out and purchased that CD, and that's something I rarely do. I've been listening to it ever since. Well I'm not going to sit up here and pretend that the boy isn't strange fruit because my God is he is. Between getting into twitter beefs with people like Lloyd about haircuts and no-lye relaxers. If he wants to be mad at someone about jacking hairstyles, he needs to direct his attention to Bruno Mars. They are both winning the award for the best Johnny Bravo duplicate haircut. 

Then he got all the way into his feelings about not being nominated for a Grammy, but to be honest they did shade the fuck out of him for that. Oh let''s not forget him trying to convince anyone with Internet access he likes vagina.... boy O_o...... ok good sir and taking instagram pics with his girlfriend/beard. Boy guess.... I convinced he's trying to be the millennium version of Prince, but here's the thing with all of Prince's purpleness I have never thought he was gay... Did I think he was eccentric? Yes. Freaky? Yes. Gay? Naw. Miguel well.... that isn't for me to say but this isn't about whether or not he likes a strong cock or not. It's about his music and that shit is banging .... I can honestly say there isn't a song I've heard from him that I don't like. The first time I heard this song below I listened to it on repeat for the rest of the day and was actually pissed it was only like 2 minutes. So when the full song dropped this summer... I got my life to it. His sophomore album is dropping next month and I strongly suggest you get into it. He has a couple of mixtapes out Art Dealer Chic Vol. 1-3, there are 3 songs a piece on each volume and I love them. He always has two previews out for his new album as well Kaleidoscope Dreams. After listening to both the mixtapes and previews, I convinced that this boy is slaying everyone else in the R&B game... yes you Trey Songz, Usher, Ne-yo and anyone else you can think of. Therefore I don't care if he wants to wear his hair like Wayman from Low Down Dirty Shame and dress like the real life version of Jafar from Aladdin. His music goes..... now if we can only get Justin Timberlake's ass together all would be well in the land of music. 

I Am Not My Hair: Part 4

My hair lawd..... I'm at a crossroads with this hair. I just want it to look like this  

But instead my hair is giving me this........ I know 

It's not going to grow 14 inches over night but 

chile this hair growth struggle is real. I haven 't 

really changed up my hair regimen to much. I 

wash my hair about once a week  with 

Organix sulfate free hydrating Macadamia Oil 

shampoo. I also use Organix's Renewing 

Moroccan Argain oil conditioner for my 

co-washing. I deep condition once a week with 

Pantene Curly Hair Deep Moisturizing Treatment.

I still use my coconut oil, castor oil, tea tree oil, 

and jojoba oil. I believe that all of this is working 

pretty well.... I guess. I know the key to hair 

growth is keeping moisture in your hair so that's 

with I'm trying to do.          

I went to a natural hair expo recently and got some 

Miss Jessie's products, so I'll see how they work 

on hair. I'm still going to get my box braids, I'm 

aiming for the end for the end on the month..... I 

really need to do some research because I'm really 

not trying to look like Patra, I'm just saying that 

look may not be the look for me.  I'm still trying to figure if I can do two-strand twist on my hair. I tried 

it once and that shit was a hot mess. Like it was really bad..... but I'll try it again when my hair gets 

longer. So that's it folks for this months hair update. 

Beautiful Textures: Product Review

So I brought these products Beautiful Textures about 6 weeks ago from Sally’s and I must say I really like them. First let’s talk about the price. I purchased the leave-in conditioner, moisture butter, hair growth oil, and curly pudding and my total was like $26. So for those that don’t feel like doing the math the products were like $5.87 a piece (they were on sale that week) but even the regular price is very reasonable $6.99. a jar of Ms. Jessie’s anything is $40 and above.

But beyond the products having a great price, the products work very well on my hair.  They leave my hair soft and smelling nice. No, like for real the products smell so good!!! So if you're in the market for some new natural hair products that are reasobable priced check out Beautiful Textures.

I Am Not My Hair: Part 3

Well about my hair….. welp there isn’t really a lot to report this month. I seems be growing, I’m hoping it will be long enough by June for me to get a sew-in or braids. Not cornrows this isn’t 2001 and hell I wasn’t too much of a fan of them back then either. I thinking box braids or something, but definitely not those Patra/Janet Jackson Poetic Justice that Solange keeps trying to bring back. Girl let that go ever. Anyway I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.

As far as my hair routine it’s still pretty simple.  I spray my hair with my water bottle that has leave-in conditioner and water. Then I use my other water bottle with my concoction of olive, castor, almond, and coconut oils. Rub it all in and add more leave-in conditioner. I do this in the morning and at night. The one thing I have started to do is tie my hair up at night. I wasn’t doing that until about two weeks ago, when I spoke to my cousin (she’s natural too) and she told me to tie my hair up. That I wasn’t a Barbie doll and I just can’t be going to sleep without a silk scarf on my head. Hey… I thought I didn’t need it; ummm yeah no I need it probably even more so now. I need it according to my cousin to keep the moisture locked into my hair while I sleep. It’s all about moisture people, it is the key!! So as usually if anyone has any tips or advice please leave comments. As you can see I’m somewhat walking in the dark with this natural thing.

It's Just Hair

So Wendy Williams made a comment earlier this week about Viola Davis wearing her natural hair to the Oscars, here's the link Wendy Williams hating again. What I’m about to say has really nothing to do with the fact that I myself am natural, hell I’ve only been natural for 6 weeks. I would still feel this way even if I wasn’t natural.

Wendy Williams and people who think like her need to have IMAX theater seats. Ms. William Wendy Williams gets on television five days week looking like a linebacker for The Bears with a horrible, blonde, yaki lace front wig and this heffa has the gall to talk about someone else’s hair. No ma’am you cannot, the woman has man hands for Goodness sakes  *In my Jerry Seinfeld voice*. 

I’m so tried of people trying to make their own personal opinions about certain as the general public feels as a whole. I guess Paul Mooney was right they ain't happy if you're nappy. Chile, look everybody isn't suppose to look like the "European standard of beauty" and y'all know what I'm talking about. Long hair don't care and light bright. Please are we still doing this in 2012?? Wendy who looks like The Marshmallow man off Ghostbusters, thinks that the hair that is growing out of your head isn't suitable. First of all who isn't natural hair suitable for exactly? Inquiring minds would like to know. Obviously she likes and she said her husband loved it, so who the fuck are you to say its not suitable? I'm just soooo tried of woman especially black woman, knocking other women for not conforming to the general public's  view of what is beautiful. This woman decided that on one of the biggest nights of her life she wasn't going to wear her wig/weave and step out of her house with her hair just the way God made. But Big Bertha and other people like her have a problem? Well some may have a problem with Wendy going around looking like a somewhat feminine Tonka Trunk. With her fake boobs, eyelashes, and tried ass lace front wig. But for real how does this woman step out on a regular basis with these horrific wigs, shit I have better wigs than she does and I make a fraction of the money she does. 

Honestly when people like Wendall she things like this it just comes off as bitter and just plain old ass hating. Maybe she's jealous because if the wig was removed and the kilos of makeup was wiped off, she would look like something off Tales From The Crypt. I mean she spends thousands of dollars on her apperance and yet she still comes up short and looking like Herman Munster. I mean look at her and then look at Viola. Yeah okay..... you be the judge of that.

It's just sad that people can't wear their hair the way they choose to, without out someone talking shit and implying that beauty is only achieved by one particular way. It's such an antiquated way of thinking. In fact its down right shameful but what do you expect from someone who's made their career by bashing people. It's things like this that holds people back from being true to themselves because they're too afraid of what people may or may not say about them. Shame on Wendall Wendy for perpetuating this behavior or what is viewed as beautiful and what isn't. I guess we see how you're doing. Okay, I'm off my soapbox for now.

I Am Not My Hair: Part 2

So it's been a month (well a little over a month) since I shaved my head. It's grown out a little bit but more importantly my edges have grown too. I was really concerned about the follicles around my edges being permanently damaged by the dreadful relaxer I got; praise the Lord (or whom ever you may pray to) that is not the case I really thought my edges were gone like Phaedra from the Real Housewives of Atlanta. Yeah get into that shit....... no edges at all!!! SMH.

 

Anyway, I had a slight problem with dryness and I might still have this problem. I saw that my hair was shedding a little, so after talking to a couple of friends and looking on youtube. I realized 1) needed to stop washing my hair everyday. Shampoo especially the ones with sulfates have a tendency to dry out your hair. So now I co-wash it with conditioner and wash it with shampoo once a week now. The second thing I learned was to moisturize my hair a lot and that all the products I used while my hair was relaxed are useless; I gave them all away. I now I have some new products that I'm using, I'll probably do a review about them but I've only been using them for about a week, therefore I can't give them a full review yet. So yeah I learned and I'm still learning that moisture is the key. So here's a pic of my progress, if anyone has any tips plese do share.

I Am Not My Hair

So good people I shaved my head over this past weekend, well a better way to put it is that I had to shave my head.  Yes, ladies and gentlemen you read that first sentence correctly...... I shaved my head. I currently look like a black Sinead O'connor. So why did I shave my head? Well long story short I got a really bad perm from my hairstylist and my hair began to fall out at a horrifying rate. Like honestly is was at the point to where I would touch my hair and like 10-15 strands of hair would fall out. I mean is was real bad, Michael Jackson Bad.  When it was breaking off it was breaking to the roots of my hair. So after looking at my hair and I had all these bald spots in my head. I decided to carry myself to Target and buy some clippers and shave my head.

I just needed to start over and the hair that was left on my head was already severely damaged, therefore I didn't see the need to keeping it. By shaving my head the hair that would now be growing would be healthy and not damaged. So I took the clippers and began to shave away. It wasn't as hard as I thought it might have been, I just kept telling myself that its hair and it will grow back. Although I never contacted my hairstylist about the bad perm, some people said I should've told her. Maybe I should've said something but I didn't see much of a point the damaged was already done, all she would have told me to fix the problem was what did.... shave my head to the point to the breakage. Also no I'm not mad, pissed off, nor do I want to slash her tires for the damaged she did to my hair. It just the risk you take when you chemically relax your hair, there's always a chance of breakage. Actually I'm kind of glad this happened, just for the simple fact that I'm now going to grow my hair naturally (without any chemicals in my hair). It was never in my plans to be natural, I just never had the desire to be natural. Even though I know its better for my hair, well now here's my chance to grow my hair naturally the way God intended me to be.  I still plan on wearing wigs or weaves when my hair gets long enough but obviously my hair is trying to tell me something, its was saying "bitch we don't want and we don't do perms anymore". So I guess I better listen.