Appearances Are Everything

So to piggyback of the post from the other day, "He wasn't man enough for me". Let's talk about the real reason the men you want aren't approaching you with the velocity you would like. It isn't because he's intimidated by your beauty, brains, or success. Please got those thoughts all the way up out of here. Its not like you're Ray J and you're rolling with the money team with 5- 7 Rolls Royce's outside. No boo, that's not the case. As I have stated before if a man likes you or what he sees, he's going to step to you point blank period. The reason he's choosing that girl over you is because you have too much red tape ma'am.

What exactly does that mean? Well men are a lot more simple than you think they are. They see you the girl with the beauty, brains, and success but they also see the girl that's guarded, stuck on herself, and just too damn difficult. Now this may not really be the case. You actually maybe a real down to earth girl, that prefers chicken and beer over roasted lamb and merlot. Well his ass doesn't know that, all he knows is that you look like a lot work. Just too much energy that he just isn't willing to invest in. So what does he do? He goes with the easier opinion, the easy, breezy, cover girl at the other end of the bar.  Now she could be the girl that's gonna give him more headaches than a little bit, be more difficult than Brittany from Glee trying to get a passing grade in algebra. But he doesn't know that and he stepped to her over you, why? Because of appearances.

Sometimes, shit most of the time life is all about appearances, Ms. Covergirl looks like she's having a good time. Like she won the lottery and sleep with Idris Elba all in the same night. You on the other hand look like your tampon is stuck in a place it shouldn't be.  It's too crowded in the spot, your feet hurt, and the drinks suck. Ms. Covergirl knows this and feels the same why you do but differences is, she doesn't give a f#ck or she appears not to. You on the other hand are vocal about your unhappiness, what man is going to approach that? Not very many, so he moves on to the next girl. She may not be as hot or smart as you but she has one thing you're lacking, the appearance that she has all these things. Now I'm not saying go around smiling like a jackass all the damn, but if you want to be approach than look approachable. Its that simple. Yeah more throw a dudes are gonna talk to you but so are the dudes you may actually want to approach you. The choice is yours but if what you've been doing isn't working, trying something else couldn't hurt.