There's No Crying In Baseball

You know some people are just criers and that’s perfectly ok. I place no judgment on them for that, sometimes the simplest things (that’s what most people think) can set them off and they proceed to cry you a river. I have friends that are easy criers, sometimes their cries don’t always indicate they’re sad or they have a serious problem. It’s just their release mechanism, everyone’s release or coping mechanism is different. Some people rage against the machine, some drink themselves into a drunken stupor, others take a nap, and some just cry about. I think I’m a combo of all those things, I been known to have my One Last Cry like Brian McKnight and they proceed to drink some wine and take my ass to bed. Please believe I’m not above crying about any damn thing. But what I refuse to do is cry at work. Let me re-phrase that, I refuse to cry in front of people at work because I have cried at work (like 3 weeks ago when I found out my dog died).

I’ve cried at plenty of times at work it’s just in the privacy of my car or the good old bathroom stall of the women’s restroom. See every time I’ve seen someone cry at work in front of people…. Well the shit is just terrible. Terrible I say!!  First if you’re crying at work people are going to gather around like they are witnessing the birth of Christ and ask what’s wrong. So there you are snotty nosed, puffed eyed, and red faced… just a hot mess and now you have to explain to people (1/2 of them you don’t like) what the fuck your problem is. If it’s non-work related people are going to be more sympathetic towards you but if your ass is cry because your supervisor chewed your ass out in the 9:00am meeting and you go to your desk at 9:30am crying….. People aren’t going to be so understanding. It doesn’t matter if you’re a male or female and if some gives you a tissue or not.  They’re all thinking what the hell is wrong with this bitchass. You will be ever and a damn day be labeled as well for lack of a better word a crybaby. Women you already know office politics are harder on us, is it fair no but life isn’t fair. So if you start going up in your place of employment crying like someone stole your bike, you will be JUDGED and labeled. People are going to throw your ass into the emotional, unstable, and difficult to work with category. People will avoid doing things to set you off…. It just becomes this all around nuisance. I know from first-hand experience how crying at work is just not the move you want to make.

At the time I was working at my after school job while I was in high school. I worked at a local grocery store chain in the Southeast region of the country. As Monica would’ve said “It was just one of those days where I wanted to be all alone” Now I can remember exactly why I was so upset that day. I believed  I had a shitty day at school, I want to say I got a not so good grade on my physics test, I’m sure something about a boy was bothering me as well, my mom had pissed me off, and I quite possibly could’ve been on my period.  Anyway I get to work, I was a cashier there. Now I distantly remember Simply Red’s Holding Back the Tears playing over the loud speaker at the store .My boss says something to me I have no idea what, but I was standing next to one of the bag boys and after whatever the fuck my boss said to me I burst into tears. Now I stand firm in my conviction in that Simply Red’s Hold Back the Tears is the saddest and most emotionally turbulent song ever written. I think hearing that song sent me over the edge and the waterworks ensued.  Yeah it was pretty bad, so bad in fact my boss sent me home for the day. Not in a bad I was suspended from work way but in a; you’re clearly going through some shit and you need to go lay down or something kind of way.  However before I went home I was bombarded with a 100 questions about what was wrong with me, and I couldn’t answer any of them because there was nothing really wrong with me to be crying like Trey from Boyz in the Hood after Ricky was shot. So that made me cry even more…smh. While I was weeping like a baby, I heard the bag boy say “well damn I’ll go get the buggies from outside, there’s no need to cry”. So there started the rumor around the store from that day until the day I quit was that I was crying and Waiting to Exhale because I didn’t want to get the buggies from outside. That was SOO not the case but it didn’t matter that’s what people thought. So whenever something went down at work, people would say don’t upset her, you know she’s sensitive, you’re not gonna cry about are you? So learn from my mistake at 17 don’t ever cry at work unless somebody has died or something. You better do it like Samantha Jones from Sex and the City and hold your composure until you get to the elevator.

It's Just Hair

So Wendy Williams made a comment earlier this week about Viola Davis wearing her natural hair to the Oscars, here's the link Wendy Williams hating again. What I’m about to say has really nothing to do with the fact that I myself am natural, hell I’ve only been natural for 6 weeks. I would still feel this way even if I wasn’t natural.

Wendy Williams and people who think like her need to have IMAX theater seats. Ms. William Wendy Williams gets on television five days week looking like a linebacker for The Bears with a horrible, blonde, yaki lace front wig and this heffa has the gall to talk about someone else’s hair. No ma’am you cannot, the woman has man hands for Goodness sakes  *In my Jerry Seinfeld voice*. 

I’m so tried of people trying to make their own personal opinions about certain as the general public feels as a whole. I guess Paul Mooney was right they ain't happy if you're nappy. Chile, look everybody isn't suppose to look like the "European standard of beauty" and y'all know what I'm talking about. Long hair don't care and light bright. Please are we still doing this in 2012?? Wendy who looks like The Marshmallow man off Ghostbusters, thinks that the hair that is growing out of your head isn't suitable. First of all who isn't natural hair suitable for exactly? Inquiring minds would like to know. Obviously she likes and she said her husband loved it, so who the fuck are you to say its not suitable? I'm just soooo tried of woman especially black woman, knocking other women for not conforming to the general public's  view of what is beautiful. This woman decided that on one of the biggest nights of her life she wasn't going to wear her wig/weave and step out of her house with her hair just the way God made. But Big Bertha and other people like her have a problem? Well some may have a problem with Wendy going around looking like a somewhat feminine Tonka Trunk. With her fake boobs, eyelashes, and tried ass lace front wig. But for real how does this woman step out on a regular basis with these horrific wigs, shit I have better wigs than she does and I make a fraction of the money she does. 

Honestly when people like Wendall she things like this it just comes off as bitter and just plain old ass hating. Maybe she's jealous because if the wig was removed and the kilos of makeup was wiped off, she would look like something off Tales From The Crypt. I mean she spends thousands of dollars on her apperance and yet she still comes up short and looking like Herman Munster. I mean look at her and then look at Viola. Yeah okay..... you be the judge of that.

It's just sad that people can't wear their hair the way they choose to, without out someone talking shit and implying that beauty is only achieved by one particular way. It's such an antiquated way of thinking. In fact its down right shameful but what do you expect from someone who's made their career by bashing people. It's things like this that holds people back from being true to themselves because they're too afraid of what people may or may not say about them. Shame on Wendall Wendy for perpetuating this behavior or what is viewed as beautiful and what isn't. I guess we see how you're doing. Okay, I'm off my soapbox for now.

You're Doing The Most

So the other week I met a guy and within 30 minutes of talking to him I knew absolutely nothing would or could transpire between us more than the conversation that we were currently having. Why? You may ask? Well, there were a few reasons. Let me start with, within 5 minutes of me giving him my number and walking to the other side of the room, this guy was already texting me. In my mind, I'm thinking wow he's level of thirst is on a thousand trillion right now. I'm sorry but you blowing my phone up within minutes of getting my number, is just unacceptable, Lord can a b!tch breath? I just gave you my number, why are you texting me? There's a difference between showing interest and being extremely thirsty, creepy, and/or desperate. See from this guy's action I could clearly see that he was thirsty, and  was looking for a thirst quencher and I was looking like some gatorade at that point in time. There is probably nothing I find more unattractive in a man than him thirsty and just too damn eager. He's like that dude that's just been released from prison and is ready to pounce on anything with a skirt on, yuck!

As if this disgusting level of thirst wasn't bad enough he continued with this repulsive display, by asking me weird and inappropriate questions. Such as, what attributes do you think makes a good mother? As I read his text all I could say was you've gotta be f^cking kidding me, really? As I read and re-read this text, I started to think about what part of the game is this? How do you even type ish like this and push send to a person you barely even know? But I replied back anyway like a dummy and told him I have no idea because I have no kids. His response was ok, then what do you think makes a good marriage? This is where I rolled my eyes, cursed myself for giving this fool my number , and pushed the ignore button. The whole convo  annoyed the bejesus out of me, and left me searching for answers but before I could even begin to process my thoughts. He hits me again asking, why I didn't call him when I said I would( I forgot to mention I said I would call him when I got a chance and apparently that meant 2 hours within giving him my number).  Excuse me sir, are you salty because I didn't call you in a timely fashion? I wish cell phones had a block button like on twitter, so people can jus blockt certain people from their memories and lives.

I just can't handle men like this and I'm confused by behavior like this. Its as if you don't know your role, are you the male or the female in this situation? I'm not taking shots, I just need an explanation. All I can say is that dudes going around acing in this manner are just idiots. This type of behavior is not what's hot in the streets, you just come across as pressed and too eager, its almost as if a girl hasn't given you any attention since the 12th grade. See no women wants a man no other doesn't want. Its just not cute and I guarantee you that women will not be throwing their panties at your feet. I don't know who told these men that being more desperate than a housewife on ABC at 9:00 on a Sunday was cool, but this is totally unacceptable. By doing all this you're showing a lack of confidence and that's the world's biggest turn off. So fellas go get some water, gatorade or whatever other liquid you like, have a seat and chill out.