Case Of The Ex

As I stated before I'm doing a series on men you shouldn't date, well today I want to talk about "The Ex". We all have them, whether they're from last week or ten years ago. We all have that one person who we can't exactly chuck to the side of the road as we can do with the rest of the men from our past, they're like little cockroaches no matter how much we try to exterminate them one always appears out of nowhere, they just don't stay away for too long. Ugh.... they're so annoying. Every time you think you're ready to close that chapter of your life, they'll send you a text, call you up, or even worst you run into them.  It's like they have some kind of alarm that tells them, oh I think so and so may be really over me. Let me hit her up and see if she's really is.

Let me be the first to say that there's a reason that person is your ex, maybe he was a cheater, liar, or whatever the case is. Then again maybe he's a really nice person but he isn't the nice person for you. Now whether the relationship ended on good terms or you guys had the sh*ttyiest break up since Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston. It doesn't matter, all that matters is that you guys aren't together anymore. The ex is probably the worst guy you can date, why because you already dated him. The same problems you had before with him will still exist. People don't change for the most part, they just make adjustments. Just because you put some new paint on a car and got some rims but you didn't  take the time get the transmission fixed, which is the real. That ish still won't work, you'll end with a pretty car on the outside but on the inside its only a matter of time before the bottom falls out and you're on the side of the road looking crazy.

A lot of the time you may have a new dude and even be over the situation with him or just him period. But what you may not realize that the ex has something over the new dude and until you build this up with some new dude, the ex will always have the upper hand. What this thing is comfortably, that comes with time you have to work up to that. The ex knows this which is why he does what he does and this is why I really can't stand the ex. He thinks he can get away with being a nuisance because he knows you and you him. That's why you're willing to deal with him to an extent or even sleep with him. Because unlike the new person in your life, you already know what you're going to get with your ex. He's already seen the good, bad, and the ugly side of you and still wanted to be apart of your life. Who's to say that the new dude will be so accepting, that's the thing with comfort its hard to achieve and even harder to let go of. I understand more than anyone but recycling a relationship with your ex, just isn't a good look. All you're doing is following a blueprint of debauchery that y'all created. Somethings need to stay in the past and your ex is probably one of those things. Living in the past usually means you'll be missing the present.